The day after I made my decision to say goodbye to my Grandmother, she passed peacefully while holding my cousin’s hand. I was grateful to have that moment alone with her the day before to tell her how much I loved her and how appreciative I was for her loving me. My Grandparents were a big part of my life and I will never forget the wonderful memories I have.
It was a difficult time between her passing and Brian’s health. I was still afraid to leave him home alone but wanted to be by my family’s side through the coming days.
Brian was still healing but he was so supportive throughout my Grandmother’s hospital stay and the services. He was by my side every moment for which I am thankful for.
The day of my Grandmother’s funeral was a freezing cold but sunny December day. The funeral was beautiful. She was close to the priest who spoke personally about his experiences with her. My cousin’s and I participated in some readings. I was tasked with the “Lord Hear Our Prayer” piece and I decided to wing it the day of without reading it ahead of time.
As I began to speak, I could see the words ahead, “Let us pray for those who have already passed, especially Irving Moore (my Grandfather) and Sean Lutz (My Brother)”. I crumbled inside. My eyes filled up with tears and I had to stop because if I didn’t I was going to be beyond repair. I was standing up on the alter, at the microphone speaking to a church full of people and I focused in on Brian’s face. Just seeing him helped me keep it together.
Brian and I really leaned on each other that day. It showed me what great partners we are and can lift each other up when the other is down. Over the next couple of months, our relationship got stronger but I started to question our future.
I had so many ideals in mind: white picket fence, a beautiful house, kids! We started to discuss what we wanted in life and kids was not one of them for him. I cried because I felt like I found my person but we weren’t in line with how we saw our future.
I was surprised because the way he is with kids is amazing. He’s even amazing with my dog! I was heartbroken because what I imagined my life to be with him was falling apart. I felt physical pain when I ended our relationship.
To be continued…