It has been a looooong time since I have written because I’ve been saving some things for when the time was right. If you’re reading this you are likely a friend on Facebook and know I moved to Cali. But how did I get here and why?
Back in January 2017, I vowed to put myself out there more (See Blog Here) and share my experiences with you and if I didn’t share anything, it meant I met someone. Well, I did go out with someone extra special almost one year ago and we are happily still together.
Last summer I gave up on love. I was settling for being alone because I hadn’t met the right guy who gets me and balances me. One day I got a message from an old friend who I was back in Jersey and wanted to catch up.
This just wasn’t any old friend. I had a crush on him in high school, he was my older brother’s best friend and grew up down the street! He was also the one who held me back from punching my brother’s ex gf in the face the night of his funeral; but I digress…
We caught up and talked a lot about my brother. Tears were shed (mine of course) because he shared things with me that I never knew. And to talk to someone who understands is very powerful. We continued to hang out often and one day I realized he liked me more than friends and vice versa.
To be continued….
Back in October I went on a date with this guy I met via Match.com. He was nice enough to go on a second, third and fourth date but he didn’t thrill me. To be honest, his personality was kinda blah but I could tell he was a good guy so why not?
A few weeks had gone by and he went quiet. I didn’t really think anything of it because he was kinda boring and I found myself doing a lot of the talking. Out of the blue last week he texted me saying he didn’t forget about me but he was going through some things and would like to sit down and talk when he was free. Ok, no big deal.
This past Sunday we met up and he started to tell me about some personal issues he was having and then said he thinks we want different things. We never had “the talk” about what we want because we were just DATING but, ok. Again, no loss for me.
But then he proceeds to tell me he felt I was more like his little sister. WHAAATTTT!?!?! Keep in mind we went out like four or five times and we kissed each time. Really? Your sister? You just lost me “bro”. On top of that he started giving me a pep talk that went something like this: Don’t worry you’ll meet someone when you stop looking. You’re smart, you’re pretty, you’re easy to talk to…
While I give him a lot of credit for taking the time to meet with me and tell me what’s up (because most guys have just gone cold) sometimes the truth is just weird. Thanks for letting me down easy but I’m not attached to you or upset in the least. Sheesh!
You have read my ups and downs of online dating. I talk to my friends about my experiences and laugh but seriously, online dating sucks. I email and do the stupid wink and I get nothing in return. Match.com even has the Stir events for people to meet in person instead of wasting time online. I love this idea but the closest events are in NYC or Hoboken. I’d like to meet a handsome fella in my backyard!
With that said, my friend and I have started a new dating venture called The Dating Lounge. We are putting together events in the Monmouth and Ocean Counties in NJ for singles in their 30s and 40s. We want a pressure free environment for our singles to have fun, meet great people and hopefully find their match.
For updates you can join the group on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/thedatingloungenj/) and follow us on Twitter @DatingLoungeNJ.